I used to be more of a perfectionist. I used to try to control everything. I used to want to know which roads the driver was taking and see if there was a more efficient way. I used to freak out if a cake I was frosting wasn’t perfect. I recall scrubbing my apartment bathroom toilet on my hands and knees with a toothbrush. (And I lived alone! No men, no toddlers!).
Then…life happened. Kids came along and I had different worries. Kids’ fingerprint marks showed up everywhere and I couldn’t keep up. Toys stayed in the middle of the floor all night (gasp!) and guess what: I slept fine. Life got busier and I stopped caring about every little detail. I started taking more photos and I laid on the floor letting my son crawl all over me instead of wiping down the countertop again. When my husband and son were playing and my husband said, “B-you’ve gotta see this” I ran into the living room to witness it and didn’t care that I had one more dish to rinse.
Then, my husband died. I didn’t care about details. A weed-filled yard, cobwebs in the corners, flipping the mattress…whatever. I’ll take care of it eventually. When I realized God is in control and I’m not…I became a “Good ‘nuff girl.” God is perfect. I am not. I don’t have to cross every “t” and dot every “i.” I do my best with what I have, and I enjoy life. If I don’t do something perfectly, I call it “good ‘nuff.”
That being said, I don’t want anyone to think this applies in absolutely every area of life. I do thoroughly shower, take excellent care of my kids, and try my best to cook meat to the proper temperature. For safety’s sake, “good ‘nuff” doesn’t always cut it. Be assured I’m not skimping in these areas. Professionally, I am detailed and follow the rules, so I’m no slacker there, either.
My point is, are there things in your life that YOU should become “good ‘nuff’ at? Should you stop trying to be a perfect housekeeper? Are you trying to win a competition with that birthday cake? (And I do have friends that are passionate about these things and if you love it, keep doing it. But if you love to hate it – stop it.)
Do you have to bring the most creative snack even though it stresses you out and takes way more time that you thought it would? Would you feel guilty having a “cereal and toast night” for dinner? Why? What can you change this week that will make life easier for you? What small details can you let go of…in order to more fully pay attention to your family and God?
Take it from the girl who once brought Little Caesar’s Crazy Bread to a potluck (major hit, by the way).
Let someone else drive (Hmmm…God?) and take the long way or different way home. So the Cinderella cake isn’t perfect….well, it’s kinda funny and it’ll taste just as good.
Let all that you do be done in love (1Corinthians 16:14). Do your best, but for God -not out of desire for perfection, not to compare yourself with others, not to exhuast your stress level or get in the way of time with your family and God.
You are Good ‘Nuff for Him.
***** Addition: If anyone is interested in this topic of giving up control, my friend Shannon Popkin’s book, Control Girl, will be coming out in January! I am very excited for this book. Click below for more info!
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I love this Bethany!
I so look forward to your blog, Bethany! Oh cripe! I just read it and I forgot to put away the milk that is still sitting on the countertop…priorities! 😄 God bless you dear friend!
Thanks, Jackie! No worries, the milk was probably just fine! 🙂
Thank you, Stephanie! I miss you!
Love this!! Yes, He is in control, and aren’t you so glad? Even in life’s darkest moments, the pressure of being in control would be too much. He is a good God. Thankful to have met you, Bethany, and I’m looking forward to reading more from you.
Thanks, Shannon! I am excited to learn from you about women of the bible and control. Some amaaazing women in there!
Needed this today. Thanks for sharing as you do…real, funny and God-honoring. ☺️